Children whose early life experiences have left them with the belief that adults cannot be trusted to keep them safe and that they have only themselves to count on are at risk of suffering from attachment-related difficulties. Sometimes these children have been victims of long-standing neglect and abuse, without a consistent and nurturing primary caregiver, or have had to endure multiple moves. Understandably, these children may find it very difficult to form healthy relationships with those around them.
Children who have had to figure out how to manage their world on their own, without having been given the requisite care and instruction about how to do so, are at a clear disadvantage. They often seek out the attention and approval of teachers and peers, only to “ruin” what they have tried to secure.